Love’s Negatives – Thu – 22-11-10

Do you know someone with a bad temper? Bad tempers come in different types. One type is holding grudges. Another is the short fuse. Quick-tempered people snap. They go from quiet to mad as fast as a spark lights a blow torch. The slightest provocation and they roar with anger.  Many celebrities have reputations for quick tempers. Alec Baldwin, Mel Gibson and Charlie Sheen are some. Adam Sandler is another. And Sandler knows it. He thinks he’s calmer now. Recently Sandler said, “I used to go nuts. I had a quick temper, quick reactions. I made a lot of dumb mistakes and said a lot of stupid things. Looking back on relationships . . . I was selfish. I was competitive with other comedians and stuff.”*

Did you notice he understands how destructive a quick temper is to relationships? It destroys trust. That’s why the description of love in I Corinthians 13:5 says, “It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” (NIV)

If you ask most of us if we are loving, we’d say “yes.” I can’t imagine anyone saying they aren’t loving. But maybe we should check whether we are loving with other questions. Such as, how short is your fuse? When was the last time you lost your temper? In order to love other, slow your anger to a snail-like pace.

*Benjamin VanHoose, “Adam Sandler Admits He Was ‘Selfish’ in Past Relationships: ‘I’m Calmer Than I Used to Be’,” People quoted by Yahoo! News, September 21, 2022,

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